Since some men have chosen to voice there concerns which ultimately may make the site  experience better for all to find love, I will add my feeling. I've been on this site since August of 2022. I try to read every letter I receive. The reason is some ladies put time and thought into their letters to me. Some use my name which at least lets me know you've seen my profile picture. Others use terms of endearment. 

1. But there seems to be this incessant game of "bait and switch" to get a man to write to them. Woman will ask about setting a date to meet in the future. When you respond to their letter discussing the meeting, they change the subject and say, we should get to know each other better. I find the the girls from America will do this the most. But, European like to try this trick. THIS IS A SURE WAY NOT TO HAVE A MAN COMMUNICATE WITH YOU AGAIN. I will always go silent on you if you done this to me. It is like an empty promise. It also shows you are dishonest from start. It may seem like it's a small thing, but it's not the appropriate way to get a man's attention.

2. Ladies if a man responds to your letter, read it. Let him know you read his letter by commenting on what he wrote. He'll feel like you are listening to him and trying to make a connection. Its frustrating when I take the time to write about myself and the woman doesn't even comment on one thing. Message deleted!!

3. Bragging about how rich you is not a positive trait. I realize woman do it to show a man how purposeful and successful they are. If you're rich, the man will find out later on. You could lose your wealth while you're together, and that may be the only reason the man pursued you. 

4. Talking about sexual acts in an introduction letter or shortly thereafter can be a turn-off to some men. Believe it or not most men aren't 24 hour sexual addicts.

5. If a man requests your personal contact information and you deny it, tell him why you did. Don't try to continue writing him like it never happened. If he knows why you did it, he may not stop communicating like I've already done to two ladies. It will help him understand better why you did it and if a future is possible for the two of you. I think I can speak for most men that we aren't here for pen-pals or a virtual relationship.

I hope my suggestions will help ladies how to approach a gentleman. Of course there those that will scoff at my suggestions and that's fine.