Jay Chambers

You decline my request for your contact information...then you want to know why I'm not contacting you???

Wow, sometimes even I'm lost for words.

Having been on the site for a few weeks now, I've became close to a couple of women. I've sent emails and responded to them, even spoke on camera and when the required number of meetings has been met, I requested their contact details. 

Now one of the women, has not responded to my request, despite it being 1 week. She still sends me mails and tells me she wants to meet next month...but still no details.

The other, who I was speaking with previously, well she is in England...even before I requested her details, she told me she wanted to travel to my city as she didn't want to wait. While we talked often, having met the number of required communication, I asked if I should request her details...and she seemed delighted that I was serious.

So 4 days later, when told she had declined to share these details...you can imagine I was a little puzzled. Only to be more stunned, when 2 weeks later, she sends me a mail asking why I no longer contact her???

Now ladies, is it just me...or does something seem very strange here? I appreciate that no woman has to send her details...but when she is planning to meet you before this, delighted to hear this...and then declines, does something seem a little wrong. The other, who is delighted to know I will be travelling to Poland, she has spent 1 week, getting this data together??? Seriously, if someone wanted my contact details, it would take about 1 minute )))

Sadly I feel that neither of these women are serious and sincere. Despite best efforts from all parties, let's be honest...they are only in this for the money.

To all those who are genuine here...this is why men have so much negativity and trepidation when using these sites. Thanks to women like this, this whole process is considered fake by many, when those who persevere, know that there are some genuine women.

Anyway...good luck to you all...and for the women who are not here for the right reasons, I hope your reward is worth it.

Comments (49)

Diana, 26

16 Dec 2025

A very honest and thoughtful reflection on the frustrations of online dating. Your observations highlight the difficulties of gauging sincerity and navigating expectations. 
Sofia, 20

16 Jul 2025

Sometimes it's a little strange - at first a woman shows interest, and then disappears or doesn't want to share contacts. Maybe it's just politeness, curiosity, or a desire to keep the conversation going without any intention of continuing anything more. I take it easy. If a person is really interested, they will open up, at least gradually. And if not, then this is simply not my story. I don't judge, but I also don't waste energy on those who themselves are not ready for a sincere dialogue. Because I'm looking for not just conversations, but reciprocity. 
Yuliia, 21

16 Aug 2024

Is it normal for women to initially show interest and then avoid providing contact details? Could it be that their intentions are not serious? How should I react in such cases? 
Ksenia, 36

20 Mar 2024

Men act like this, too! It is because nowadays people are more insecure about themselves, and the way the other party will see them. You know, seeing her in person is the whole different story because you already have created an image of a woman in your head, but in reality she has her unique habits, her own scent, her manner of behavior etc. But that is okay, we all need a time to choose the right partner. Otherwise why would you communicate to several women if you wanted only one at a time? 
Anna, 26

31 Jan 2024

What an emotional reaction!!! Some girls need more time to be sure in man. What did you do for her to show her your serious interest? Care? Gifts? Attention? Time?  
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