Has searching for a Ukrainian wife on dating sites become just an illusion? Can I avoid falling into the same trap my friend fell into?
Note: Read the story to the end before judging.
Chapter One: Beginning with Glimpses of Hope
I had a friend named "XY" (...years old), a software engineer who worked remotely and felt lonely despite his professional success. In 2023, he decided to look for a life partner from Ukraine. He had heard about their beauty and "commitment to family." He began his journey on dating sites, paid $50 to purchase credits, and met "Olga," a nurse from Kyiv. The conversations were enjoyable, but she canceled twice due to her mother's illness. After three months, he discovered that her photo was taken from a public figure's Instagram account!
Chapter Two: The Endless Maze
Adam tried 30 sites over two years, paying a lot of money for messages in between. Notice something strange:
70% of the accounts repeated the same names and photos (such as "Irina," "Katya," or "Anastasia"), even on different sites! Over the course of two years.
Robotic responses: "Hi, I love traveling and movies. How about you?"
Some might wonder why my friend "XY" didn't travel, as it's well known that Ukraine is difficult to travel to after the war.
The Hidden Request for Money:
Once: VK asked him for $200 to travel to his country because she didn't have the money! But he immediately blocked her. He wondered if $200 covered the cost of traveling from one country to another?
Another time: A girl asked for gifts after just two days of chatting because it was her birthday.
Chapter Three: The Concrete Wall
By the second year, Adam had become an expert at spotting fake accounts:
If the photo was too perfect (like a model), it was stolen.
If the English translation was too perfect (while she claimed she didn't speak English), there was a scam team behind it.
But even the "real" accounts weren't serious. He met "Anna", who agreed to marry him within two months of talking, but she disappeared when he asked to see her via video!
Chapter Four: The Shock That Changed Everything
On a cold day in December 2023, while Adam was browsing a new website, He came across a familiar image: "OG," the girl who had scammed him two years earlier!
Same photo, same bio, but with a new name: "Alina"!
He realized then that 80% of the sites were run by the same scammers.
Chapter Five: The End... or the Beginning?
XY didn't give up and decided to look for a different way. Since he hadn't used the well-known sites, he looked for new, reliable ones until he found his wife. He married in early 2025, and now he and his wife live happily. He advised me to marry a Ukrainian woman, but I didn't want to make the same mistakes and didn't want to waste too much time wondering if I could find a girl here within a few months.
I got his permission before publishing the story.
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Comments (40)
Yana, 36
01 May
Thank you for sharing this story, it is both eye opening and very real. It shows how easy it is to get lost in illusions when searching for love online, especially across countries.
At the same time, I think it is important to remember that women also face similar struggles. Many genuine girls are looking for real love, but they often encounter deception, manipulation, or insincere intentions from men as well. The problem is not one sided, it is part of a larger issue within online dating.
I have also been in a similar situation, where I was misled and spent my time and energy on men who only promised to meet but in the end did not keep their word.
In the end, both men and women are trying to find something real, and both can get hurt along the way. Stories like this are a good reminder to stay cautious, but also not to lose hope.
Anna, 22
19 Jan
I was interested in reading your story, it conveys your desire to find that very "person for you," but looking at the experiences of others, I understand that you don't want to be deceived or used. I think that you should not despair, look for it! you will understand that this is your person, even at a distance, it will be easy and interesting for you with her. Many stories that grow into true love, which began with acquaintance on sites
Diana, 22
09 Jan
I was deeply touched by your story. It doesn't convey disappointment, but rather an honest search... with mistakes, pain, and still hope. Sincere people and true stories always find each other... sometimes just not right away 🤍
Viktoriia, 19
09 Jan
Do you think it is possible in today's world to find a sincere relationship on the Internet on the first try, or is this path through "concrete walls" and disappointment a mandatory test of strength of intentions? I think everything is possible, so you could try.
18 Jun