I wrote this story under the category of "memories of youth" because this story is my experience of my personal experiences in my youth.

  I often think about human relationships. As someone who has experienced many useless relationships in his youth and has tasted true love once, let me write a few lines about this.   First, when we say to someone, I love you, it means: "I love myself next to you." That's why we feel light and happy when we are in a love relationship because we are next to someone. which gives us a good feeling and makes us love ourselves. . When we love ourselves, life becomes more beautiful in our eyes and it is as if a burden has been lifted from our shoulders. Of course, I've found that this is true not only of romantic relationships, but of many other things as well. For example, when we say "I enjoy Paris" it means "I enjoy myself in Paris" or when we say "I enjoy walking" it means "I enjoy myself while walking"  This point is more pronounced in love relationships. Suppose I am in a relationship with a woman. She tells me, "You are my love," "You are my life," "You are my soul." By saying these words, she creates an identity for us, and we enjoy that identity. The lover gives identity to the lover. We like to have identity. This is the reason why people are looking for money, prestige, social status, emotional relationships and forming a family. Because these become part of our identity anyway. Of course, I am not rich and I do not have a social status to be able to judge how much their influence is on our identity. . But I have been in love. My wife and I were really in love with each other and after her death, I was hit hard.  As I said, the lover gives identity to the beloved and that is why we feel identityless when we are betrayed.  Suppose a person has been in a relationship many times and has been betrayed and failed many times. After some time, he will have an identity crisis. And this identity crisis scares him, and every time he wants to enter into a new relationship, he feels that a sign has been installed above that relationship, which has written the expiration date of that relationship.  Or, for example, I have thought a lot about why some men or women cheat despite having a good and beautiful partner. One reason is diversity. When we start a new relationship, there is a lot of excitement at first. We are curious, we love excitement, we love to discover. We love to experience new things. New relationships and new bodies are attractive to us, but when we think we've discovered them, it's like we're done and we have to move on to the next project.   Suppose a man gets married and after a while he feels that he knows all about his wife , and there is nothing new to discover, and this may make him bored and start looking for a new relationship, and that relationship then After a short period of time, it makes him bored and then another new relationship. And of course, I have understood that those who are addicted to diversity are not at peace and are more prone to identity crisis.    We must discover this bug in ourselves to end this vicious circle somewhere.  We must understand that every day there is something new in our wives/husbands that we can discover. Just as after years of living with our parents or siblings or friends we suddenly find out that there is something in them that we have not discovered before. Our soul is infinite.  We should try to make love our essence. Love does not need a perfect beloved. We can claim that we have learned to love when we don't have the feeling that if I were with another woman instead of this woman, I would feel happier. These are all illusions. It is a trick of the mind.    When we have entered into a relationship with a woman or started a family, we should never think that it was possible  that we would have found a better case. We must believe that she is the best wife we ever could have.

If you want to test yourself whether you are ready for a stable relationship or not! Think about whether you are looking for someone with specific characteristics? Or are you ready to give love to anyone whom is ready to get it? Regardless of how old is she? How tall is she? What color is her hair? What is the color of her eyes? Or what is the size of her breasts?lol   If you are looking for a beloved with special characteristics to make love, maybe you should reconsider a little.   Believe that you are honestly and sincerely ready to love and then give yourself up fate!